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Types of Abuse


Physical Abuse:


The abuser:

- Spits at you; scratches, bites, or grabs you

- Shakes, shoves, pushes, restrains, or throws you

- Twists, slaps, punches, chokes, or burns you

- Throws objects at you; may use weapons to threaten you, attack

you, or even kill you

- Locks you out of the house; refuses to help when you are sick

- Gets abusive during mealtimes to prevent you from eating in peace

- Gets abusive during sleep time to disrupt your sleep



Sexual Abuse:


The abuser:

- Is jealous, possessive; calls you sexual names

- Withholds sex and affection as a punishment; coerces you to have sex by manipulation or threats

- Pressures you to have sex when you don't want to

- Physically forces you to have sex; is violent during sex

- Coerces you into sexual acts which you are uncomfortable with (sexual activity you find offensive)

- Is verbally denigrating during sex

- Forces you to not use birth control or to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases he/she may have

- Is unfaithful to you after committing to monogamy



Emotional Abuse:


The abuser:

-Attacks you verbally in public or in private

- Insults you about your weight, culture, education, religion, language, or your history as a survivor of his/her abuse

- Forces you to commit actions you think are degrading

- Withholds approval or affection as a punishment; plays mind or ''head'' games

- Regularly threatens to leave you or tells you to leave

- Always claims to be right; breaks promises, does not follow through on agreements

- Isolates you from your family and/or friends



Financial Abuse:


Actions indicating presence of financial abuse:

- Controls all the money; has all the bills in his/her name

- Does not allow you to work outside the house, or refuses to work himself/herself and makes you support the family

- Puts you on an allowance for you and the children

- Takes away your paycheck

- Saves or spends money while depriving you and your kids of things you need